I allow myself the space to feel regret and despair.
Theme of the Day
Life isn’t always rainbows and unicorns.
Welcome to Day 31 of the challenge. If you’re jumping in right now, be sure to check out the Welcome to the Triple Dog Dare to get started. The previous days are listed at the bottom of each post with a hyperlink.
It’s easy to fall into the trap that others are doing better than you are. The perfectly curated lives on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and other social media outlets cross your feed and you wonder if you’ll ever be that happy.
As you watch the smiling faces, exotic vacation photos, yummy foods and other things that make you feel less than happy, know that those are only snapshots of a few seconds. Like the Five of Cups, you spend time looking at what you don’t have (the spilled cups) and ignore what you do have (unspilled cups behind you).
Transparent moment: When I first got on social media, I spent hours on it because the lives of others fascinated me. Time passed, and depression started to affect me more and more, I knew that I needed to spend less time on social media and spend more time living life. Now, I allocate 30 minutes of my day on social media.
I like the idea that we build up these walls or rules or laws to maintain our reality, and then when they fall away, you’re left with a whole bunch of illusions. Smoke and mirrors. – Sarah McLachlan
Watch the YouTube video of what is behind the illusion:
There are times when my traumatic experiences bubble up to the surface and I feel depressed. Rather than fight those feelings, I give myself permission to feel those feelings. After all, they bubbled up for a reason. It’s important to hold space for your regret and despair. The trick is not to remain in that low vibrating space for long periods of time.
Some days are just bad days, that’s all. You have to experience sadness to know happiness, and I remind myself that not every day is going to be a good day, that’s just the way it is! – Dita Von Teese
You’re feeling disappointed that a situation has not turned out as you had hoped and you’re wallowing in self-pity and regret about what has been lost. You’re having trouble letting go of past mistakes. It’s important that you forgive yourself and allow yourself time to recover after an emotional loss.
Here’s a video I turn to whenever I feel like it’s too much and there is no end to the sadness in sight:
An important side note: If you’re feeling depressed for an extended amount of time or if you feel like self-harming, it’s super important to seek help from a professional. They have the smarts and mad skills to help heal your mind and heart.
Another important side note: There’s a epidemic within the spiritual community that if you don’t heal yourself, then you don’t really want it. It’s bullshit. There are some things in life that you can’t do on your own and it has nothing to do with spirituality. It has everything to do with a chemical imbalance and this can only be helped with a professional.
If someone tells you that you can meditate your deep sadness or depression away, run far away from them as possible. You don’t need that kind of nonsense in your life.
I feel passionate about this because I’ve known wwwwwaaaaayyyyyy too many people that have been shamed in the spiritual community for having clinical depression or have feelings of sadness. It’s crap and a really harmful.
You have TWO Triple Dog Dare Challenges today. Read the challenges and close your eyes to connect with what the challenge is asking of you. Allow yourself to walk through the experience and be sure to capture as much as you can with your words as well as intent.
Triple Dog Dare Challenge #1: Watch this YouTube video when you feel like nothing is working out for you and you want to spend most of your time wallowing in regret and despair:
Triple Dog Dare Challenge #2: Schedule your “social” social media time and limit it to no more than 20-30 minutes a day. Go to your calendar and block out a specific chunk of time. EVEN if your business centers around social media, you still need to block out a chunk of time because there are a million of other things you need to —
Once you’ve completed your Triple Dog Dare Challenges, celebrate them! I invite you to step out of your comfort zone and share with us in the comments below so we can celebrate with you.
You’re super important and so is your journey. I’d love to hear how the Triple Dog Dare Challenge has enhanced your personal and/or professional life. Leave a comment and enrich the lives of our other readers. Pay your experiences forward.
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A gentle reminder-
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