The Power Behind a Positive Attitude


Personal Positive Affirmation:

The thoughts I have are positive and empower me to be the best version of myself.

What goes on in Your Head?

I invite you to stop for a second.  Listen to your thoughts.  What kind of inner dialogue fill your head?  Are they positive or negative?

Are you telling yourself that you’re amazing at what you do?  Or are you constantly telling yourself that you’ll never amount to anything?

Last week, I delivered a small lecture to a group of people and when a question was posed, a person in the audience wanted to answer.  After a moment of hesitation and going through the mental shift of not wanting to wrong, the person shrunk back.

The person’s perspective was important, so I asked probing questions that would help the person step into their own power.  Everyone has something important to contribute to the group, no matter how big or small.  Although the person had trouble voicing their answer, I held deep admiration for the bravery and attempt to share their thoughts. Sharing out is not easy.  Finally, the person opened up – and it was a great answer!

Just as we were about to go into a discussion, someone chimed: You’re really stupid, you know.

The entire room fell silent and we were all mortified that someone had the audacity to say such statement – ALOUD.

Sadness and disappointment filled the room because the person who spoke those negative words showed everyone in the room how THEY view themselves – insecure and inadequate.

Again, listen to your thoughts.  What kind of inner dialogue fill your head?  Are they positive or negative? Do you feel insecure or inadequate?

The Science Behind Positive Attitude Power

We live in a society where everything positive is celebrated and anything negative is  shunned.  Rather than trying to push away the negative thoughts, take a moment to step into that space and find out the source of that negativity.

It’s important to do a bit of emotional digging around the negative thoughts because they can originate from a source of unresolved hurt, repressed emotions, or a past life issue.  Once you have found the source of that negativity, take a moment to drain the power from it and allow new, positive power to take its place.

According to Andrew Newberg, M.D., author of Words Can Change Your Brain, “A single word has the power to influence the expression of genes that regulate physical and emotional stress.”  Thoughts are extremely powerful and can affect the overall feel of your energy force.  The attitude you carry around with you is reflected in several ways:

Remember the person that made the mean and hurtful statement?  The feel of the room was enough to encourage the insecure person from being there and prompted them to leave.  As the individual left, many people poured words of encouragement to re-boost the targeted person’s self-esteem.

When someone says one negative statement, it takes a long time to bounce back.  After these words are spoken, the apology or reassurance looks something like this:

You’re a good person. You’re smart.  You are so funny.  Remember that one time you made me laugh? So many people love you.

All the while, the wounded person is trying to erase the hurtful words.  The more positive words that are spoken, the better the person feels.

Did you know that it takes 4 to 5 positive statements to lessen the effect of the negative statements?

Negative words carry a heavier vibration so the icky feeling is harder to shake off.

How do you develop a positive attitude in a stress-filled world?

A positive attitude begins with a healthy self-image. If you love the way you are and are satisfied, confident, and self-assured, you also make others are around feel the same way.

Positive thoughts are linked to a positive attitude.

Positive attitudes are linked to positive attitudes.

If you want to have a positive attitude, you have to feature healthy thoughts. This is probably very hard to do nowadays since, all around us. A study shows that for every 14 things a parent says to his or her child, only one is positive. This is truly a saddening thought.  This is probably where the person with the low self-esteem learned the behavior.

It is hard to avoid them all together because they do show up in movies, social media, books, other people, and the world around us.  However, do not get upset with yourself if you find yourself with an occasional negative thought. Do give yourself permission to disconnect from those sources that encourage negativity every now and then.

If you want a healthier outlook in life, you need to think happy thoughts, and you have to hear positive things as well. So, what can you do? Well, for starters, you could see a funny movie, you could play with children, spend some time telling jokes with friends. All these activities fill you with positive stimuli, which in turn promotes positive attitude.

“I Dare You to Take an Action” Step:

As always, if you are beset by troubles, even in your darkest hour, focus on the good things in life, you will always have hope. Problems become something you can overcome.

You do not have much to lose by adopting a healthy, positive attitude. Studies show that such an attitude actually retards aging, makes you healthier, helps you develop a better stress coping mechanism, and has a very positive effect on all the people you meet every day. So, what’s not to like about a positive attitude? Allow yourself to step into the arena of positivity

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You have two Reflection Moments to journal today.  Read the challenges and close your eyes to connect with that snippet of time.  Allow yourself to walk through the experience and be sure to capture as much as you can with your words.

Reflection Moment #1:

A positive attitude begins with a healthy self-image. If you will love the way you are and are satisfied, confident, and self-assured, you also make others are around feel the same way.

Write about a time you had a positive attitude and how it impacted your life.

Reflection Moment #2:

A negative attitude, on the other hand, has, of course, an opposite effect. So, carrying a negative attitude has a twofold drawback. You feel bad about yourself, and you make others feel the same way.

Write about a time you had a negative attitude and how it impacted your life.

Once you’ve completed your Reflection Moment, set it aside.  After some days have passed, return to your work and see how you can incorporate some of what you have written into your current work-in-progress: workshop, book, e-book, or online course.

Happy Writing.

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