Oracle of the Day: Wistful Memories and Jealousy

Wistful Memories | A trustful person | Jealousy Photo Credit: Meli Halstead

Wistful Memories | A trustful person | Jealousy
Photo Credit: Meli Halstead

Positive Affirmation of the Day:

I choose my words wisely. I speak only the highest truth.

Central Theme of Your Writing Piece for the Day:

Throw the Knight of Hearts | Knight of Clubs | Seven of Hearts in blender and what do YOU get?

There is a young person that evokes warm wistful memories in your life. However, watch out for feelings of jealousy towards this person because there isn’t any need for that kind of foolishness.

What else?

The double knights spell out trouble for you if you don’t learn how to handle kiddos between the ages of 0 – 18.  It’s a pretty wide bracket, but keep your patience and wits about you, and you’ll be just fine.

After all kiddos aren’t that difficult — OR are they?

Writing Focus:

When I look at my kiddos, I do become jealous of them at times.  It’s not a destructive kind of jealousy, but rather one of “I want to do that too, but it’s not my time — it’s theirs.”   Their accomplishments make me so proud and I sometimes wish I knew then what I knew now.  Heck, if I had all this knowledge I have now when I was a teenager, I would RULE THE WORLD.  Well, my little teenage world at the time.

My son is looking at prospective colleges.  We receive a bunch of letters from different colleges/universities that invite him to look at their campus.  He reads through the information and decides if they are something worth pursuing.  What’s even cooler is we went to check out a college of interest.  We walked through the campus and did the whole tour.  Seeing all of those college kids walk to and from their classes brought me to the time I was an undergraduate.

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When I find myself wanting to stand in my kiddo’s shoes, I remind myself that I already had my time.  Heck, I’m a professor — how involved in the college scene is that?!  But, it’s nice to be a student sometimes.  Then, quickly I snap out of my reverie when I remember projects, endless papers, deadlines, stress, sharing a room with a roommate that is a bit strange, and trying to figure out how it is all going to work.

I think I’ll embrace the professor aspect a little more.

One thing that irritates me more than anything is parents who try to live vicariously through their kids.  Granted, your kiddos are a part of you, but their life is their life.  Not yours.  I find myself wanting to tell parents who experience life via their kiddos — to get their own life.

I Dare You To Take Action:

Close your eyes and take in a deep breath. Think back to a time when you were a teenager and you felt jealous about something.  See the thing or person you were jealous about.  Ask yourself why you were jealous and what did you feel was missing in your life? What would your older self tell your younger self about the jealousy?  Why?

Now think about your character.  Is there someone your character is jealous of?  Why?  How does your character handle this?  Does s/he keep those feelings to him/herself or does s/he let folks around her know about it?

A female high school student (Student A) of mine was jealous of another young lady (Student B).  You guess it.  Student A learned that this young gentleman didn’t share the same feelings of affection towards her because he liked Student B.  In retaliation, Student A spread nasty rumors about Student B in hopes of getting the boy to change his feelings.

It didn’t work.  In fact, it backfired.

What kind of scenes centering around jealousy, wistful memories, teenagers, tweens, kiddos in general, and caution can you create? What does that combination look like? What does everything look like as a stand-alone?

Happy Writing.

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